Create an Anchor for Relaxation Using NLP
Because of the high level of stress in our society, most people find it difficult, if not impossible, to relax completely. Even when people are on holiday or taking time out with family and friends, their minds are constantly busy with thoughts about work, money, health and ‘what if’ scenarios. Research has shown that there is a strong relationship between stress and our health. Today we understand that stress not only affects our moods but is one of the most prominent contributors to potentially dangerous disorders.
Today we have no option but to learn how to manage stress in our lives as much as possible. This will in turn enhance our lives and greatly improve our health.
I want to share with you a simple but powerful technique for achieving a relaxed state whenever you need to feel calm and composed.
Anchoring and triggers
An easy way to achieve the emotion (state) that you would like is through a simple technique known as anchoring in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). The process of anchoring is a natural process that occurs in our everyday lives. Usually, it’s an external stimulus, such as a sound, a smell, a taste or something we see that causes an emotional reaction.
Seeing a photo may bring back memories of when the photo was taken. Some examples could be: Hearing your favourite song or tune on the radio that evokes feelings of love and memories of your first girlfriend. Maybe the smell of freshly baked bread causes you to feel happy as you relive the moments of helping your mother make bread in the kitchen.
Words can also act as very powerful anchors, especially when coupled with visual and/or auditory suggestions. Advertisers are fully aware of the power of anchors and use it to convince us that we need such a product. When we are exposed to the stimuli repeatedly over a period of time, we become anchored to that experience.
Let’s create an anchor for a state of relaxation
We will create a physical anchor by pressing your thumb and middle finger of your non-dominant hand together. This means if you are right-handed, you will use your left hand, and if you are left-handed, you will use the right hand. Once you have created this anchor, you will be able to recall the relaxed state whenever you want, simply by pressing your thumb and middle finger together.
Here’s the procedure
When in your bed tonight, and while you are in a deeply relaxed and comfortable state, press your thumb and middle finger together for about 10 to 15 seconds. While you are doing this, you could say to yourself, ‘relax’; you may say it aloud if you prefer. Repeat this process every night for at least a week, and you will have a powerful trigger that you can use whenever you want to feel relaxed.
How to Fire the ‘Anchor’ when needed
Whenever you find yourself in a stressful or less than optimal situation, press your thumb and middle finger together the same way as you did in bed, and repeat the anchor word ‘relax’, and you will experience an immediate shift into a relaxed state.