Change Your Perspective

Change Your Perspective – See Life Differently

“Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees the stars.”
Frederick Langbridge, ‘A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts

What would you do if you came second in a contest you were in, would you study, practice and work for better results the next time, or would you feel discouraged and look for an excuse not to participate in the next challenge?

All throughout our lives we have choices, you may choose to take the pessimistic view and live a self-defeated life or you may decide to take the optimistic route and experience a challenging and fulfilling life.

Why nurture an optimist’s point of view?

Optimism has always been linked to having a strong morale and a positive outlook in life toward work, sport and occupational success; to popularity; to good health and even a long life of freedom from anxiety and depression.

On the flip side, the rate of depression and pessimism has never been higher. It can affect anyone at any age; in fact teenagers as young as thirteen are now being diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorders.

Optimists see things differently

Let’s look at what the defining characteristics are of an optimist are.

For starters optimists expect the best in everything. Optimists are confronted with exactly the same hard knocks in the world as the pessimist, but the difference is in the way they see these events, their perspective is different. They tend to see these misfortunes as temporary and confined to this one time only.

Optimists focus on a plan for dealing with these challenges, they use what could be referred to as ‘positive reinterpretation’ meaning, they reinterpret the negative experience in a way that helps them learn and add value to their growth. They are unmoved by bad situations and by simply changing their perspective they embrace it as a challenge to do better.

The optimist’s language is one of positive reinforcement and self encouragement. They tend to use phrases like, “what a great opportunity I have”, “what a great challenge”, “I can overcome”, “I’m confident in the process”, “I expect only the best”, and “this is a just a temporary setback, it’ll soon be over.”

Optimists are popular

Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They have no need to control or manipulate others. They normally attract people to them. Their optimistic view of life can become contagious and influence those around them.

They persevere, they don’t give up easily, and they are patient with the process of inching their way forward in the achievement of their goals.

Optimists live healthier longer lives

Medical research has shown that gratitude and a positive outlook in life can increase the body’s immune system making it more resilient to disease and sickness. The optimist’s health is normally good; they exercise regularly, eat healthy food and get plenty of sleep.

Optimists age well, are freer than most people from the usual ills of middle age and tend to outlive those who are prone to negative thinking.

So, why not be choose to be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more fulfilled and healthier life.

Mark Csabai

Mark Csabai is an NLP Life Coach in Bloemfontein, South Africa. He works with clients in and around the Free State to help them achieve more, manage stress, build self-worth, increase confidence, overcome fears and help maintain a better life-balance.